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From what you described , I am going to say the oiling issue is the problem ..... The question is , is WHY there is a oiling problem
I am wondering if when you put the tower back together that you did not get the cam bearing in place ..... or ...... that you removed the flywheel and in doing so , got the cap on the puller too tight and smashed the brass end at the end of the crank which is a oiling seal , in which case , the crank would now be toast ...... I am assuming that you had a reputable shop cut the seats and measure the depth so the shims would fit , etc. ??? , if the springs were matched with the valves , then there should not be a issue with the tension being too stiff ..... not possible , and that would not cup the buckets , the oil is the cause of that , so your first task will be finding out why the top end lost oil ..... that above all needs to be addressed before anything else is replaced , otherwise you will fire it up and destroy all the next batch of new parts ......
Stainless valves (and springs) would not cause any of these issues , you should get tons of hours on them without worry or adjustment , the reason you were adjusting yours so frequently is because the valves were worn out , and once they start to move , its only a matter of time before you run out of shims to fit ...... Unfortunately , no matter what , you will be replacing more parts ..... but as mentioned , you must find the cause of the lack of oil first ........
